If you answered “a” to one or more questions, you probably feel loved when people set aside life’s distractions to spend time with you. Keep in mind that everyone defines quality time a bit differently. It may mean a thoughtful phone call during a busy day, a picnic in the park, or a few minutes every evening to share news about the day. Consider what “quality time” means to you and to the special people in your life.

Answering “b” means you feel loved when people do thoughtful things for you such as washing your car, helping you with a repair job, bringing you breakfast in bed, or bathing the children so you can put your feet up. Even small gestures say “I love you” to people whose love language involves acts of service.

Options labeled “c” are associated with the comfort and pleasure we get from physical affection. If your sweetheart texts to say, “Wish we were snuggled up together!” he or she is speaking the love language of touch. Physical touch includes sex but also friendly gestures such as a hug or a pat on the back.

If you chose “d,” chances are you treasure thoughtful gifts from loved ones. If you get a tear in your eye over things like a necktie, a finger puppet, a crayon drawing bestowed by a child, or a homemade ornament, gifts are probably an important love language to you.

Options labeled “e” refer to words that make us feel loved and valued. These may be conveyed in a note from home, a homemade card or poem, a romantic letter, a song, or an unexpected text that simply says, “I love you.” To people who speak this love language, hearing that they are loved (and why) is the sweetest message imaginable